Why we should be frustrated and bored more often, according to a cognitive scientist
By Art Markman
Chances are, you’ve had the experience of watching a movie or TV show and recognizing an actor without being able to remember their name or what other shows or films you’ve seen them in. These days, you just look them up on an app or the internet. Before cellphones, you had to live with the frustration. Invariably, though, you’d be taking a walk, showering, or daydreaming later in the day and suddenly the actor’s name or prior roles would come back to you.
These days, cellphones are ruining these moments of insight. First, we don’t get to practice living with the frustration of not knowing something. Apps like IMDB provide us with the instant gratification of answering our questions. A few swipes and keystrokes, and we know who we’re watching.
The problem is that there are many situations in life—particularly in our working lives—in which the correct answer for the problem we’re facing isn’t known yet. In fact, we’re being paid the big bucks to find the answer.
If you’re not comfortable with the discomfort of not knowing the answer to a question, then you may find it difficult to wrestle with a thorny problem for days or weeks at a time without having a clear resolution. In that case, consider avoiding the easy route to getting answers so that you can practice living in the limbo of not knowing.
Cellphones also ruin moments of insight by providing constant stimulation. That stimulation gets in the way of the mental process of incubation.
Essentially, when you walk away from a problem that you’re trying to solve, several things happen that can help you solve it later when you return to it.
In addition, there are a few elements of incubation that are actively harmed by keeping your mind occupied all the time. If you walk away from a problem and continue to do things like use your cellphone, then you won’t get these benefits. And here’s why the mental process of incubation is important:
For these reasons, it’s a good idea to practice living with the frustration of not knowing the answer to something and not distracting yourself when you step away from the problem by immediately moving on to focus on something immersive like your phone. Instead, recognize that boredom can have value when you’re stuck without a solution to a thorny problem.
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